Tips For A Long Distance Relationship

Being a military wife has taught me a lot of things. It’s taught me how to be patient, be polite, be strong, and most of all has taught me how to love someone no matter the circumstances. My husband has been gone for a little over 7 months and it’s been one of the hardest things we’ve ever gone through both individually and as a couple. But in the midst of all the unpredictable craziness, we still find the time to show we care about one another.

Dogs during Christmas time, dealing with a long distance relationship

This post is going to be a mixture of a lot of things but mainly how we’ve conquered a long distance relationship and how you can too! Keep reading if you’re interested…

My husband was deployed officially on April 18th, 2017 but has really been on and off away since January of 2017. Deployment was unexpected for him and truly came as a surprise. My husband is Army Reserves meaning he lives a pretty normal and routine life outside of the military – doesn’t work on a base, we aren’t “stationed” anywhere, and does one weekend a month in uniform. If he’s called for a deployment, he goes but it was never a concern of ours up until this year.

Dogs during Christmas time, dealing with a long distance relationship

During his time away from home, we’ve been fortunate enough to get a few chances to see each other. His unit has been very flexible with leave time and making sure families get to see their service members. It’s been a huge help considering when he left, I thought I wouldn’t see him for that whole duration of time. I’d say we definitely got lucky with that.

Here are a few of the tips and tricks I’ve learned throughout this experience that may be helpful to some of you!

Communication is key. If you won’t be able to talk or text during a certain day, time, whatever…let your partner know. Before my husband goes into “work” he try’s to let me know ahead of time so I’m not bothering him during those hours. It’s convenient for both of us.

Plan vacations and time together. This will be different for each person because all situations are unique. However, if you can plan events or vacations to go on, do it. The time away can be so much easier to endure if you have a date to look forward to. I’ve found comfort in hard days knowing there are only a few weeks left until we meet again.

Dogs during Christmas time, dealing with a long distance relationship

Lean on family and friends, keep yourself busy when you’re not around your partner! This is so crucial! Staying at home everyday, will not help time move faster so get outside and make the best of the situation you’re in.

Send care packages and special items! Celebrate Holidays with each other through a gift exchange via snail mail. Everyone loves to get a surprise from their special someone! Christmas is coming and I know I’ll for sure be sending my hubby a few things he’s been wanting. FYI – there are a ton of easy ideas on Pinterest for decorating the inside of a care package!

These were just a few of the many things that have helped me through this journey. Share some of your experiences and tips in the comments! I’d love to hear some of the ways you all cope with someone you love being gone!

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6 Month Deployment Update

The long road of deployment is soon coming to an end and I’m more ready than ever to have the Hubs home for good. We’re at the half way mark and I wanted to make sure I was documenting these feelings. Definitely a bit excited but more anxious if anything to get our lives back to normal.

“Distance teaches us to appreciate the days that we are able to spend together and distance teaches us the definition of patience – It is a reminder that every moment together is special, and every second together should be cherished”

Six months ago I was telling myself that I could never handle my husband being gone for months on end. I relied on him for nearly everything. We relied on each other. If I was having a bad day at work I knew coming home to him would make it all better. If I forgot to let the dogs out in the morning, he was there to do it for me. If one of us felt sick the other was there to comfort and cuddle.

Once deployment started I assumed so much would change. I thought we’d lose being a team and quickly become two different people. I was surprised to find out we’d definitely drift but for the better. My expectations were incredibly skewed. Without my husband being home, I’ve learned to be more independent. I’ve had to teach myself how to do the larger chores at home like mowing the lawn, checking the fuse box when the power goes out, taking all the cars to get maintenance, and of course killing all the spiders that decide to creep in the bedroom.

“One day closer and one day stronger”

If anything, deployment has made our love grow stronger and I’ll forever be thankful for that. Undoubtedly, everything happens for a reason so I’m sure there’s a bigger plan in store for us someday or somehow. We’ll just have to wait and see what that is come January.

Easy Ways To Relieve Stress

Woahhhh this work week has me all types of messed up. Life has been so hectic and I’ve been having a lot going on around me. All of this commotion makes it difficult to stay focused and motivated. There have definitely been more than a few times where I just wanted to give up. Anyone else?

Well, fear not because although we all have those days we also have ways to combat them and offset the stress! I’ve come up with 5 ways to remove stress from your life in a variety of different situations. Join me in this blog post so we can all be stress free together!

Clean It Out 

Alright, stay with me here. Cleaning a space reduces the clutter from your life and will leave you feeling refreshed. Start with small places like your car, closet, or bedroom. Then, move on to the rest of your home or spend time really organizing the areas you just cleaned. Trust me, this helps!

Read Or Write 

Expanding your creative thoughts will help relieve some of that stress build up. It’s a mind aid to just let everything go in the comfort of a good book or journal. Spend sometime at a local coffee shop to dial into a better, more relaxed, environment. Let the creative juices flow! What’s been your recent favorite read?

Drive

Sometimes one of the best ways I deal with stress is to just take a lot of time for myself. There’s nothing wrong with that! I do this frequently by hopping in my car and throwing on some tunes. The trip doesn’t stop until I do. The possibilities are quite endless. A drive can mean a few blocks, miles, or hours. So long as your gas budget allows!

Gain A Green Thumb

I’ve recently began filling my little home with plants. It gives me something to plan for every day and makes my space more welcoming. There’s something wonderful about adding greenery to a lived in area! The process of potting, watering, and watching your new babies grow will give you a new distraction. Guaranteed, the tension will melt away with a succulent or two.

Bubble Bath It Up

Nothing says relaxation more than bubbles. After a long hard day, the only thing I want is a warm bath. Light a couple candles, make a hot camomile tea, and slide on into the tub. This is typically the time of the day where I shut down my electronics and spend some much-needed me time. I can’t be bothered when I’m soaking away the stress.

There are plenty of great bath products out there but some of my favorites come from LUSH. Their bath bombs make me feel like a deserving princess worthy of nothing but sparkles and scents that resemble fresh picked roses or clean linens. If that’s not your thing, try a moisturizing body conditioner or scrub. Pampering myself helps leave the troublesome thoughts “down the drain“. See what I did there?