Kindness Is Not Weakness

Not to toot my own horn or anything, but I often get a label called “overly nice”. Huh?! Does anyone else ever get this and just think, “is it possible to be too nice”? I agree, there are certain situations and scenarios where “niceness” should go right out the freaking window but…on a daily basis? Is it wrong to be too kind?

“Character is how you treat those who can do nothing for you”

I learned a long time ago that smiling, encouraging, and uplifting others makes a difference. You never know what another person is going through or what hardships they could be facing. As cliche as it may sound, a kind gesture or comment can go a long way. A very long way.

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But what some don’t understand is that kindness is not weakness. A person that is kind shouldn’t be walked over. They shouldn’t be overlooked, ignored, or deemed too fragile. If anything, being a good person…a nice person…makes me feel inspired and motivated. I feel more confident and more willing to engage with others. I communicate well with my coworkers and love to meet new people. Being nice, gives me this glowing belief that I made an impact. If I can change the direction of one person’s bad day, than that is proof I am living a life with purpose.

“The world is filled with nice people, if you can’t find one be one”

So next time you are having a bad day, appreciate the people who are trying to make it better and spread good vibes even when you’re not feeling them. Things will get better, life will go on, and tomorrow is a bright new day! What you put into the universe is sure to come back around.

Why Date Nights Are Important

When I got married to my husband, part of me thought our relationship would change. I knew plenty of couples who warned me of marriage because to some…marriage meant more responsibility, accountability, and planning. Friends told us we’d forget about making time for one another and that date nights would slowly slip away. One year of being married later, I can vouch to say all of those things were untrue!

Yes, marriage is hard work and sometimes the hubs and I lose track of what’s going on around us. That doesn’t mean our relationship isn’t strong or moving at a slower pace than before. In fact, we’ve made a bigger effort than ever to make sure our time together is well spent. Which is what led me to write this post!

Time To Talk

Sometimes the only time I have to talk with my husband about important life details is when we’re out to dinner. Get off your phone when you’re with each other and speak. Plan for your next vacation, talk about the bills you have due for the week, or just ask questions about each other’s day!

Experiencing New Things

One of the best things about “date days” is finding new restaurants to try or fun experiences. A relaxing couple hours with your spouse or loved one makes all the difference if you’re always on the go and away. Learn something new together, go on an adventure to a new place, or find an activity you two typically don’t do as a couple!

We recently discovered a new restaurant in our area that offers special brunch on Sunday afternoons. It was quiet, tasty, and we decided to splurge on a sit-down place that offered new flavors! A date idea you might enjoy with your significant other might be a night out at a restaurant grand opening or any grand opening for that matter! Stepping out of your comfort zone can be a good thing!

Giving Undivided Attention

Circling back to having time to talk. It’s equally as important to be giving each other undivided attention, free of distractions. Some of the things I’m referring to is the phone, T.V, or work duties. All of that needs to go out out the window on date nights!

Listening

We can all guess that when we speak, we want others to listen. Make sure you’re really taking in the conversation between you and your significant other. What’s the point of going on a date if one person is zoned out the entire time? This is why most of the “dates” my husband and I go on consist more of a social atmosphere rather than let’s say…a movie!

Even though life has been crazy lately, I wouldn’t want to do it with anyone else. Getting a little sappy in this post so if you made it to the end, thank you! I hope you find the value in date nights like I do!

Chicago Eats – Owl and Lark

I’ve found heaven on earth ladies and gentlemen and it’s called Owl and Lark. Located in the La Grange (Chicagoland) area this cute little spot is the perfect combination of quick bites and sit down staples. After seeing tons of hype about this place on social media, I knew I had to make my way towards it.

The menu at Owl and Lark really took me by surprise. They had salads, smoothies and bowls, dairy-free options, and a variety of different breads to choose from for your avocado toast. Which by the way, is the bomb diggity.

I ordered a 16 oz matcha latte with oat milk (considerably my new obsession). Oat milk gives the drink a natural flavor. To me, it’s like an upgraded version of regular milk. It was light and flavorful + the perfect amount of sweetness. Totally frothy and blended together nicely. I loved it!

To compliment my hot beverage, I also splurged on the pumpernickel bread avocado toast. The avocado wasn’t too overwhelming – it was evenly spread across and topped with pickled onions, red pepper flakes, arugula, and watermelon radish. The watermelon radish atop everything was, to be honest, a bit much. I was intimidated at first but after a few bites, that fear was gone and filled with flavor!

Besides the wonderful food and drinks this place had, I also just have to briefly touch on the atmosphere. This gem was bright, filled with character, and modern with a tiny amount of rustic flair. If my personality and style was a coffee shop, it would be this.

Owl and Lark, thanks for creating such an adorable place for my hubby and I to have lunch. Everything about our experience was perfect and I’ll 100% be back for more! Friends, if you live in the Chicagoland area, put this spot on your list to visit! I promise you will not regret it!