My Courthouse Wedding

Hi everyone! I hope your March is off to a wonderful start. Spring is so close and summer is just around the corner. Did anyone else think this winter flew by?!

In today’s post, I wanted to talk a little about my courthouse wedding, what my plan was and how I did it. I know a ceremony like this may be a tad on the unconventional side but ultimately it’s what my husband and I had wanted from start to finish. To be completely honest, it couldn’t have been a more perfect day and I’m so fortunate that everything worked out in our favor.

Let’s Start With The Why 

Growing up, I always imagined myself having a large, drawn out, extravagant wedding. I wanted a big white dress, tons of bridesmaids along with a reception planned for a queen. But as I’ve grown older and gotten more mature, I realized those things were less important to me than other details. My plan had changed from being traditional to a more intimate and modern style.

After we had decided on this casual and laid back arrangement, people began to wonder why? Distant family members would ask, “why rush it”? Others would question if there was a deeper meaning for getting married young and spontaneously. It was almost like we needed to prove something to people in order to do what we really wanted.

In my opinion, our plans were not spontaneous at all. We had been engaged for over 6 months prior and had been living together for most of our relationship. We had fought, cried, laughed, and experienced life together as a couple. To commit ourselves to one another was something we had thought of for a while and was not by any means a righteous decision.

With that said, I do believe it’s important to think about a life changing move like marriage and discuss if it’s a “right time” decision with your significant other. For myself and my husband, it was.

Did I Send Out Invites?

This was one of those things I just didn’t feel was needed in my instance. The family we were inviting was immediate and the only other person attending was a close friend. If your plan is to include all members of the family then maybe some simple invites are needed but for us they were not a necessity.

Things I Knew I Wanted On My Day

There was a short list of keepsake or memory worth things I wanted to include on my wedding day. I knew I wanted a cake, flowers, and a dinner to follow but I didn’t want anything too big or glitzy. I found a local bakery to create my cake, my husbands mother took care of the bouquet, and I chose a fair priced restaurant where we all could gather afterwards.

My Color Scheme

Even though I wasn’t having a large amount of guests come to this event, the goal was to try to make everything cohesively tie together. After many days of pinning on Pinterest, I found some color shades I loved. I geared everything around light rosy pinks and a purple maroon color with touches of ivory. It really wasn’t anything over powering but just enough to be memorable.

The Overall Experience

The process of getting our marriage license to tying the knot was smoother than expected. My advice to others thinking of doing the same set up I did, is to come prepared. Don’t forget cash, two forms of legal identification, where to go, who to see, and your courts availability. Knowing all of this information will make everything go as planned without any issues or hiccups.

To add, if you’re religious and would like the ceremony to serve a specific purpose, make sure you tell that to your judge. Our I do’s were less than 2 minutes but I know some judges can accommodate you if need be.

Reception?

I really quickly wanted to mention what our long-term goal is for a “reception”. In the next coming months, we are planning to send out “Eat, Drink, And Be Married” party invitations. We will be holding a large get-together to formally announce our marriage as well as celebrate with all of our family and friends.

What makes this difficult, is that my husband will be deployed from March 2017-Fall of 2017 so this is something we are still trying to figure out and organize. Will he take leave time? Should we just wait until he returns home? We’re still figuring it out.

To wrap this up, I’d like to again state that the way we got married is not the way everyone chooses to get married. There was much thought, consideration, and discussion over our decision as to what we wanted and what we didn’t. All in all, the day was full of love and new beginnings. As a newly wed couple, we are so excited to be officially husband and wife. Can’t wait to see what the future holds for us!

If you have any questions regarding this topic please don’t hesitate to reach out to me. I’m open for discussion on many of the topics I blog about and will gladly answer any you may have. My socials are always linked on the home page for your convenience and I’m pretty quick with getting back to people! Let’s chat!

February Goals + Life Update

This post will be a little on the unconventional side because February is almost over! Can you believe it?! It feels like we’ve just started 2017 and to think we’re approaching the third month of the year?! Crazy!

You’d assume I’d have thought of this blog post idea before the month began but unfortunately that’s not the case. Although I still had goals this month, I suppose I forgot to write them down, put them on paper, or in this case attach them online. On the bright side of things, I’d still like to share my goals from this month with all of you, as well as how I’ve lived up to my personal expectations throughout these last few weeks.

Right off the bat, I’d like to say this month has not been easy. It has been full of curve balls and days where I just did not want to get out of bed. Despite a less enthusiastic attitude, I managed to pull myself together and get what I needed to get done.

Being A Better Partner

My fiancé (spoiler alert: now husband) was off at military training for pretty much all of February. If you didn’t know, my fiancé will be deploying in March and the months leading up to this has not and will continue to not be smooth. But we’re working on it. It was difficult to get a taste of what our new normal will be like and frankly very eye-opening.

To get to my point, February was my month to learn strength. I consistently reminded myself why it was so important to collect my thoughts and stay positive. As a fiancé and now wife, I felt almost obligated to hold our relationship together and not let anything break our bond. Why? Because a soldier can’t be a soldier without the backing of his family and I was determined to make sure my soon-to-be hubby felt secure and supported throughout those difficult weeks. With that said, there’s no doubt I felt lonely and most days I was by myself but that goal of staying in touch with one another, calling nightly, and keeping busy always kept me hopeful.

Continuing A Healthy Lifestyle

With those rough evenings ahead, it was a goal of mine to consistently stay active. I’ve been going through spurts of energy and the outdoors has been a perfect outlet to let some of that go. Illinois weather in February tends to be gloomy and cold but lately it’s been the exact opposite. I’ve been fortunate enough to spend a lot of my days off walking the pups or running throughout my neighborhood.

In addition, I made an effort this month to monitor my calorie intake, work load, and physical activity. Although I haven’t managed to see any appearance based results, I’ve definitely noticed a difference in attitude and mood. I’m able to keep up with my day now and not get tired as easily as I would have the last month. It’s neat to realize my body is changing in a good way.

Grow My Social Media 

At the beginning of this month I really wanted to make sure I was paying attention to other social media sites aside from Instagram. Instagram has always been my go-to creative outlet and I’ve been fortunate enough to establish a strong following on that platform. However, I’m realizing now that if I essentially want to build a brand, I need to allow myself to branch out on other applications.

Since making this decision, I’ve set daily goals for the amount of times I should be tweeting a day, pinning a day, etc. Honestly, I’ve really began to love these other sites just as much as I do Insta! Even better, Twitter and Pinterest give me another way to connect with my followers on a more personal level. The most recent change I’ve made is creating at least four new boards a week or one every other day. It keeps things consistent for my audience and lets me explore creative options.

To conclude, February is coming to an end and March is upon us. What are your goals for next month? Be sure to comment below or share with me on other sites what you’re most excited for this Spring. As always, my socials are linked below as well as on the home page. Hope you all have a wonderful Sunday!

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Sharing Our Engagement Photos 

Earlier in the Fall, my fiancé and I had professional photos done for our engagement. We rarely get our photo taken together and when we do, it’s definitely not staged or planned. I was nervous going into this shoot as I knew we would be in front of someone we’ve never met, in a not so familiar setting, taking pictures of something that still felt so new to us.

None the less, doing this album and capturing these moments makes all those other things seem minuscule. Our photographer was kind and patient. She made us feel ourselves. My expectations were low before the shoot but wrapping everything up, I couldn’t have been anymore excited to see the images!

About a month later, we finally got our photos back and I thought I’d share a few of them with all of you. Let me know what you think!