Tips For A Long Distance Relationship

Being a military wife has taught me a lot of things. It’s taught me how to be patient, be polite, be strong, and most of all has taught me how to love someone no matter the circumstances. My husband has been gone for a little over 7 months and it’s been one of the hardest things we’ve ever gone through both individually and as a couple. But in the midst of all the unpredictable craziness, we still find the time to show we care about one another.

Dogs during Christmas time, dealing with a long distance relationship

This post is going to be a mixture of a lot of things but mainly how we’ve conquered a long distance relationship and how you can too! Keep reading if you’re interested…

My husband was deployed officially on April 18th, 2017 but has really been on and off away since January of 2017. Deployment was unexpected for him and truly came as a surprise. My husband is Army Reserves meaning he lives a pretty normal and routine life outside of the military – doesn’t work on a base, we aren’t “stationed” anywhere, and does one weekend a month in uniform. If he’s called for a deployment, he goes but it was never a concern of ours up until this year.

Dogs during Christmas time, dealing with a long distance relationship

During his time away from home, we’ve been fortunate enough to get a few chances to see each other. His unit has been very flexible with leave time and making sure families get to see their service members. It’s been a huge help considering when he left, I thought I wouldn’t see him for that whole duration of time. I’d say we definitely got lucky with that.

Here are a few of the tips and tricks I’ve learned throughout this experience that may be helpful to some of you!

Communication is key. If you won’t be able to talk or text during a certain day, time, whatever…let your partner know. Before my husband goes into “work” he try’s to let me know ahead of time so I’m not bothering him during those hours. It’s convenient for both of us.

Plan vacations and time together. This will be different for each person because all situations are unique. However, if you can plan events or vacations to go on, do it. The time away can be so much easier to endure if you have a date to look forward to. I’ve found comfort in hard days knowing there are only a few weeks left until we meet again.

Dogs during Christmas time, dealing with a long distance relationship

Lean on family and friends, keep yourself busy when you’re not around your partner! This is so crucial! Staying at home everyday, will not help time move faster so get outside and make the best of the situation you’re in.

Send care packages and special items! Celebrate Holidays with each other through a gift exchange via snail mail. Everyone loves to get a surprise from their special someone! Christmas is coming and I know I’ll for sure be sending my hubby a few things he’s been wanting. FYI – there are a ton of easy ideas on Pinterest for decorating the inside of a care package!

These were just a few of the many things that have helped me through this journey. Share some of your experiences and tips in the comments! I’d love to hear some of the ways you all cope with someone you love being gone!

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  1. itsgeorgiaxoxo

    I️ met my boyfriend of 2+ years while traveling Europe, and we’re doing long distance as he lives in California & I️ live in Canada. We are both students so we only get to see each other every maybe 4 months when we have time off from school, so I️ know how you feel. For us, I️t definitely helps to text a lot, and talk through out the day, so we don’t miss each other & also FaceTime is also key, really tricks you into thinking this person is actually there! X

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  2. movingmrs

    Thank you for sharing. You have great advice. My husband isn’t in the military, but he travels a lot for his job. I am frequently by myself-espcially on the weekdays. I love the traveling advice and planning time together. My husband and I bond through traveling and planning date nights to dinner. Since we move for his job often, we aren’t usually by family. I look forward to spending time with my husband when he returns home from work and I cherish our weeknight phone calls.

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  3. The Hog Ninja

    Great tips! It was really helpful! My girlfriend and I have been in an LDR now for almost a year. And I’m planning to visit her in her country at the end of the year. Being in an LDR really sucks. But with the right commitment and communication, I do believe it can work. Wish us luck!

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