I’ve always struggled with finding ways to nicely say “no thank you”. And that sounds so dramatic to say. But as a young, millennial, female entrepreneur, there are more than enough reasons to justify why I feel the way I do. Especially in this point in time where the rights and equality of others are being recognized and yet continue to be manipulated.
“Never accept anything less than what you deserve. Remember you teach people how to treat you..”
Truthfully, it hasn’t been easy to overcome the fear of saying no. Yes, I said fear. I say this because in my case it stems from intimidation, the unknown, and the willingness to make someone else comfortable instead of myself. Whatever your case may be, I wanted to go through some of the ways I’ve been able to conquer this issue and tips that could help you too!
You Are The Priority
One of the reasons I felt so guilty for saying no was because I believed other people mattered more than I did. I would say yes to picking up extra shifts even though I knew I was stressed and overworked. I went out more often, spent money I didn’t have, and accepted unhealthy habits because I just didn’t feel confident enough to say no.
They’ll Get Over It
There’s always going to be a reason for saying no. It’s not just something we say for fun. It’s a word that lets others know “that’s not okay”, “I don’t like that”, or “I don’t want to do that”. It’s not easy and it’s not something we necessarily want to say but it’s empowering and allows you to make decisions. If someone does not respect a no or refuses to accept it, that’s their problem. Majority of the time the individuals who do that are the people whom you’d be better off without anyway.
“Life Tip: Do you”
You Are Not The Problem
In previous situations, I’ve been called a lot of different things for standing my ground on my no’s. But the truth is, I’m not the problem and neither are you. Stop blaming yourself for choosing an unpopular response. Whatever your reasoning is, I’m sure it’s a good one. Take the time to remember and reflect upon your values, morals, and goals. Did saying no keep you aligned with your overall plan? I know that’s hard to maybe understand over the internet but if you really think about it – our choices today truly reflect the things that happen to us tomorrow. So, choose your yes’ and no’s wisely.