Wow, one whole month down! I can’t believe so much time has passed since my better half deployed. Truthfully, I feel okay but there are a few things that get to me every once in a while. For instance, my evenings are beginning to blend together and everyday is starting to feel like a Tuesday. It’s the day we tend to forget about, perfectly positioned right in the middle of our work week. Tuesday’s remind us the 7 day stretch has just begun and is no where near over.
Feeling okay about things doesn’t necessarily mean it’s been great. There is nothing easy about your spouse being away. There have been hard days where I wake up knowing it’s gonna be a long one. On those, I try to pack my schedule to offset any unsettling feelings. Staying busy is key!
There’s also been days where I start my morning off without evening acknowledging he’s gone. As bad as it may sound, I like those days! I hate the constant reminder of my husband being away. Forgetting about it for a while is a nice feeling sometimes.
What’s been my secret tools thus far? FaceTime, Skype, phone calls, text messages and contacting each other any chance we get has made the time go by quick. Along with those, I’ve been trying hard to concentrate on the future and plan for what life will be like when he returns. I’ve taken the time to organize our finances and put together things we have neglected since moving into our home. I don’t want to worry about these things once he’s back.
As for friends and family, everyone’s been great. I’ve gotten a ton of support and love. It’s comforting to know there are individuals that are here when I need them. Still, there are hours where I wish the military talk could just stop. With support comes a lot of concern and frankly I’m doing better than a lot of people give me credit for. I consider myself strong, independent, and successful. I am not one who looks for a “pat on the back” when I know I’m doing a good job. By no means am I used to this much attention and feedback from others.
Even at the beginning stages of our relationship, we kept things very private. We’re not the type to post on Facebook, every hour, just to show the world what we’re doing at that exact moment. We don’t share our anniversary details, rarely our weekend plans, or personal moments. The foundation of our relationship has always been built on making sure we are taken care of before anyone else. I think that’s why I’ve disregarded anyone else’s opinions and continue to do so through this tough time. So far, it’s worked for us that way.
To others out there struggling with a deployment, what is your advice? How have you gotten through your service members time away? If you’re not familiar with this type of life experience, tell me what’s kept you focused through difficult times! I’d love to hear what you all have to say!